Dec 12 2008
A Letter to Mum and Dave
Dear Mum and Dave,
I am sorry that we needed that phone call last night. I am sorry that you don’t accept my choice of partner. I am sorry that you think she is “too gay.” I am sorry that you feel we are pushing our “gayness” on you when we cuddle up on the sofa. I am sorry that we are so in love that we only have eyes for each other. I am sorry that Kirst didnt try to get to know you. I am sorry that she now tries too hard. I am sorry that you dont know her because you cant be bothered. I am sorry that you made me cry on my wedding day. I am sorry that i suprised you by calling my mother on my wedding day all excited. I am sorry that i did not realise what a homophobic family i come from. I am sorry i am doing something so unnatrual. I am sorry i love a woman more than life itself. I am sorry that i cant be who you want to me. I am sorry you cant accept the person i am. I am sorry that you dont want to share xmas with me.
Shrug off the “I’m sorrys” and go live your life. If you don’t, you’ll be “sorry” all of your life. And, that’s no life at all.
It wasnt meant in an im sorry for myself kind of way.
I’m so sorry.
me again, pulls in the wrong blog, http://kidsofqueers.blogspot.com/
I know what you are talking about. I truly am sorry. Go hug your wife and feel joyful!
Oh, honey, that breaks my heart.
Hopefully, one day they will come around. I know for a lot of people, it is very difficult to not only accept, but also to embrace. I think acceptance is easier. Being able to be okay with the idea of having a gay/lesbian is one thing, but actually seeing it and being part of it is more of a challenge.
I have a friend who said once that she wishes she could go to a wedding with her girlfriend and not have to act different. She wishes she could dance with her girlfriend, kiss her, hold her hand, all the things straight couples do at a wedding. Because of the discomfort it causes, she refrains.
I told her, if I ever get married, she is more than welcome to do all those things. She asked if it would freak out some of my guests. I said who cares if it does. It would be MY wedding, and they’d have no right to say a word.
My mom is okay with gay/lesbian relationships, but she can’t see it. if there is kissing on tv, it makes her uncomfortable. She knows it is her, not them, but she can’t help it.
I’m hoping with time, your family can get used to it and embrace you and your wife better.
~Kelly
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